Don’t take others’ words as gospel: It’s important to know that other people’s experiences may not match up with yours. Take what you see and hear today as simple advice, as helpful bits of wisdom, not a direct path to enlightenment. Like an IKEA manual, the process of coming out is written in many different languages. Some dude talking about how coming out at 15 changed his life may not apply to your situation. Take everyone’s advice in, sort through what you can use, and just say thanks for what doesn’t work for you.
Everyone is talking about what Frank Ocean’s letter means for his career, for hip hop. That’s great, truly. But Frank Ocean’s letter is also a huge opportunity to simply draw minorities into a discussion we’ve been having without them for years, the benefits of which can be life-altering.
The Silver Fox comes out.
Since my early days as a reporter, I have worked hard to accurately and fairly portray gay and lesbian people in the media – and to fairly and accurately portray those who for whatever reason disapprove of them. It is not part of my job to push an agenda, but rather to be relentlessly honest in everything I see, say and do. I’ve never wanted to be any kind of reporter other than a good one, and I do not desire to promote any cause other than the truth.
Being a journalist, traveling to remote places, trying to understand people from all walks of life, telling their stories, has been the greatest joy of my professional career, and I hope to continue doing it for a long time to come.
Fitting that on the week of July 4, America got a gay TV anchor to wrap around our flagpole.
I still want to go back in time and be an awkward, sappy teen holding hands with a boy during a rom-com, or have him hold my shirt sleeve during a scary movie. I still want to go back in time and attend a college formal with a dude. I still want to go back in time and attend my friends’ weddings with someone I care about. I missed too many milestones along the way, too many rites of passage, and while I really don’t have many regrets, that stuff continues to eat away at me at times. But coming out was the greatest thing I could have ever done.